Five steps
From install to first calm Sunday.
- 01
Install on the family’s devices
A 90-second guided setup on your child’s phone, your phone, and any shared tablets or laptops. CalmKin appears as a normal app on your child’s home screen — no hidden icons. Your child taps through the same explainer you read, and signs the family agreement.
- 02
Connect the apps that matter
On Android we ask for the accessibility permissions needed to read the apps you want monitored — TikTok, Snapchat, Instagram, WhatsApp, Discord, YouTube. On iPhone we walk you through the Apple Family Sharing path, which has narrower coverage but full transparency. On computers we install a small browser-aware companion.
- 03
CalmKin reads, in private
A small language model on the device pre-filters every message and screen. Only ambiguous fragments are passed — anonymously and briefly — to our server-side language model for deeper context. The conversation itself is never stored.
- 04
You get a calm weekly summary
Every Sunday, you receive one short email: how much screen time, which apps dominated, who your child talked to most, anything notable in tone — and a single sentence on what to ask about over breakfast.
- 05
You only hear urgently when it matters
When CalmKin spots one of the seven patterns that need a parent — grooming, sextortion, severe bullying, self-harm cues, drug contact, sexual content involving the child, threats — you get a clearly-written alert with what we saw, why it matters, what to do in the next hour, and the local crisis resource.
What CalmKin reads — and what it doesn’t.
What we read
- — Direct messages on the apps you connect
- — Group chats your child is in
- — Comments and replies they send and receive
- — Captions and on-screen text in videos they watch
- — Search queries they type
- — New contacts and the language those contacts use
What we don\u2019t
- — The audio of voice or video calls (we cannot read these)
- — Banking, health, or any other unrelated app
- — Photos in your child\u2019s camera roll (only those they share)
- — Conversations on apps you choose not to connect
- — Anything when your child uses Incognito or Private Mode
- — Romance, jokes, friendship drama, homework venting
We are honest about our limits because pretending to see everything is the most dangerous thing a parental tool can do.
A real alert
What an alert looks like — written like a friend, not a system.
Sunday 9:14 AM · CalmKin
A new contact is using grooming patterns with Maya.
Over the past nine days, an account claiming to be a 14-year-old named "Jordan" has messaged Maya on Snapchat. The pattern matches what specialists call contact grooming: rapid escalation of intimacy, requests to move to a private app (Telegram), keeping the friendship secret from her real friends, and yesterday a request for a photo "just to prove she\u2019s real."
This may be nothing. It may also be very much something. We think the right next step is to ask Maya about Jordan tonight — not as an interrogation, just curious — and then read the script we\u2019ve prepared if it feels real.
Calm safety, when you\u2019re ready.
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